Posts Tagged With: Grindr

Four Texas men use Grindr to assault victims

Four Texas men have been using Grindr to lure gay men with the belief it will be a casual encounter only to show up the gay man’s place and steal and assault them.  This is not happening in Russia believe it or not, but in the Texas and in the United States.  The assaults took place in Plano, Frisco, and Aubrey, Texas.

Anthony Shelton, 19; Nigel Garrett, 21; Chancler Encalade, 20; and Cameron Ajiduah, 18, are being charging with conspiring to cause bodily injury to people because of their sexual orientation.

Once the four were inside the victims homes, they used firearms and restrained the victims with tape while making derogatory statements about their homosexuality. The four causing the assault also stole the victim’s property including cars.

Many gay men are under the belief that because they’re living in the United States where Marriage Equality exists, that it must mean they’re safe and everybody loves gays. Marriage Equality allows two people of the same gender to get married under the eyes of the law, but that’s it.  It doesn’t mean every single person in the country is cool with gays as evident by the continuous hate crimes that exist and in this scenario.

This is the not the first time gay men have been attacked on the Grindr app, although the media tends to mostly report about the Craigslist attacks.   When using the Grindr app, or any app for that matter, you shouldn’t be in a rush to meet someone as many of you are.  You have to take your time getting to know that person and who they are.  You have to see several photos of the person, not because you’re shallow and want to see if they’re fuck-able, but it’s to ensure it’s not a fake profile.  If the person looks too good to be true hot out of this world, then you’ll want to be leery of that, especially if the calibre of people that generally hit you up or not as hot looking as that.  If the photos look like it’s a hot male model, then question that.  Use your common sense and be leery, question who you’re talking to make sure the person is legit.

I’ve found through research on apps like Grindr that the majority of men hitting me up want to get it on immediately.  They lack in conversational skills.   You can’t learn anything about someone who uses one to three word responses and is trying to hook up with you right then and there.

And if you’re the one who typically hosts a meeting, then you need to be especially vigilante in ensuring the person you’re inviting into your home is legit.    You can’t be naive, and I’m sorry to say not many on the app are that careful.  I’ve conducted endless research and it’s dangerous how easy people are meeting up.

 

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Ex-gay Christian Advocate Discovered on Gay Sex App Grindr.

An “ex-gay” Christian advocate, who blogs about how religion saved him from a life of homosexual sin, was recently discovered on a gay sex hookup app called Grindr.

Matt Moore, a blogger for the Christian Post, writes extensively about how Christianity has helped him to turn away from a gay lifestyle. But, apparently it didn’t help him quite enough to steer him away from Grindr.

I am wrong in having been on grindr. I haven’t changed my views on homosexuality, the bible, etc.,” he said to Jones. “Creating a grindr profile and talking to guys on it was major disobedience on my part….disobedience to Christ. Disobedience to a loving and gracious God. Thankfully, I believe that He forgives me for this disobedience. I believe the blood of Christ covers this disobedience. And I won’t be on grindr again….ever.”

When attempting to explain his gay desires, Moore wrote, “I had a yearning in my soul that God had placed there for Himself, but I was perverting that desire and directing it toward people instead of my Creator.”

Although he “never really thought, ‘I want God to cure me of my homosexuality,'” Moore turned to religion for the cure. He says that every day he deals with desires, but claims it is worth the fight “because of the working of the Holy Spirit in my heart, I am able to see clearly that the homosexual feelings I have are a perversion of the gift of sex that God gave mankind.”

The poor guy is bullied and brainwashed by those around him that he actually buys what they are telling him.  I can tell you as someone who connects to Heaven and the spirit world on a daily basis that Heaven, God and Jesus DO NOT see homosexuality as a sin.  In fact, what they have told me is that they see no distinction and are happy to see two souls in love.   They say that we can set up our lives here as we choose. We have free will and some people, particularly the churches, live in fear and unfortunately choose to believe something about gays that is simply not true. You are all loved equally.   At the same time, when you seek out the pleasures of the flesh on a sex app like Grindr though, you are seeking to cover up inadequate feelings about yourself that can only be fulfilled by a love of self and of God.  This goes for heterosexual or homosexual sex addictions whereas a committed love relationship with another soul regardless of their gender is accepted.

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Dating a guy who is on Grindr is a big no-no

QUESTION:

“Do most guys continue to search the dating sites for “friends” when they first start seeing someone? I thought I was on a movie date a couple weeks ago until I saw my “date” close his grindr app. I didn’t think much of it until our fourth hangout when he showed me some gross guy close by on the app. I’m new to dating guys so maybe this is just how gay dating works. Is this behavior the norm early on when dating? I’m pretty sure I’ve been friend-zoned and didn’t even know it.

ANSWER:

 Grindr is a sex app. Even if guys are pretending to be on there for friends first, they’re only interested in the way you look and to see if you’re fuckable even as friends.  It always ends up turning into sex eventually.  If you’re just dating it is a little strange he’s still playing on it.  When I’m interested in someone I don’t have an urge to jump on apps like that or even look around.  I’m satisfied with what I have.  I’m sure there are some that still need that open or crutch to hop on.  And it’s likely he’s not doing anything scandalous with it, but just chatting.  I’d see how it plays out with him since you’re only in the beginning stages of dating.  It’s too soon to be setting boundaries.  It does bother you though or you wouldn’t have asked. It has to do with self control in the end.  If he’s unable to function through a week without logging in, then he’s got an addiction that may or may not be a problem later on down the line.  If I was on a date with a guy and he’s logging onto Grindr with me, then for me personally that’s not the kind of guy I’m looking to date.  It may be for other guys and that’s fine.  Decide what you’re comfortable and willing to accept now or move on.

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