Posts Tagged With: Gay

Bridge the gap between religion and gays

The immediate judging of religion doesn’t help.  It’s grouping an entire group together who doesn’t share the same views.  Not all religious people are anti-gay.  Just like not all gay people are anti-religious.  The only way positive change happens is when a gap is bridged.  It’s when those that are good from both groups speak louder than the ones that are bad.  There are religious people who love and include all people.  There are also those that are gay who are and have opened themselves up to a higher power of God or spiritualism.  The media only wants to focus on the bad ones from both sides making noise.  Once again, it’s not the truth or the whole picture.

Many gays seem to be Atheist, which is the not thought out point of view.  It’s no surprise having religious dogma shoved down their throats that they’re hated – which you are not. Think for yourself and find the answers on your own.

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Salvation Army makes statement that they want gays put to death

Yes its true.  The Salvation Army has stated that they do not support gays and that they should be put to death.  They are in the business of helping people whether they are abusive or the lowest scum of society, but if you are gay, you can forget about the Salvation Army reaching their arms out to you.  That’s where they draw the line.

This is like having a sign outside that says, “Christians Not Allowed.”  Remember when there were “Blacks Not Allowed” signs”?  

The Salvation Army has expressed their Christian beliefs in the past, stating that they do not accept the gay lifestyle, nor do they stand up for gay marriage. Salvation Army went on record recently, stating that gay parents should be put to death as the bible instructs. Major Andrew Craibe, a Salvation Army Media Relations Director, went on public radio hosted by journalist Serena Ryan, to discuss a recent call by gay parents for a boycott of the nonprofit for its anti-gay policies and beliefs.

Ryan questioned Craibe about Salvation Story: Salvationist Handbook of Doctrine, the manual used to train Salvation Army “soldiers” and members. Several chapters refer to the sin of homosexuality, including a section that cites Romans 1:18-32, which includes a admonition that homosexuals “deserved to die”;

“ Ryan: According to the Salvation Army gay parents deserve death. How do you respond to that, as part of your doctrine?”

“Craibe: Well, that’s a part of our belief system.”

Ryan: So they should die.”

“Craibe: You know, we have an alignment to the Scriptures, but that’s our belief.”

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Powerful 10 minute must watch video about love by Shane Bitney

Powerful 10 minute must watch video about love by Shane Bitney:

Born on December 19, 1985, in Kalispell, Montana, Shane Bitney Crone grew up with the nickname “Motor Mouth.” Now that name seems even more appropriate in light of his recent YouTube video, which went viral with almost three million hits. Shane’s film portrays the many injustices he experienced after losing his partner and the great love of his life, Tom Bridegroom. This gut-wrenching, mini documentary (in memory of Tom) has now inspired millions of people worldwide to join Shane’s pursuit of marriage equality.

From a young age, Shane has used his considerable voice on behalf of good causes, inspiring others through his talent and actions. In Montana, he also regularly performed at the Missoula Children’s Theater International Performing Arts Camp. During high school, he was active in the community and was awarded Student of the Year for his leadership.

Shane worked part time to earn money so he could pursue his dream of moving to Los Angeles after graduation. Armed with this money and with all of his worldly belongings in the trunk of his car, Shane headed to California without a job, but with an abundance of ambition and willingness to work hard.

In 2005, Shane met his partner, Tom Bridegroom. Dedicated to each other and their mutual success, Shane and Tom started a social media/public relations company, Bridegroom and Bitney, in 2008. Targeting up and coming artists in the music industry, they assisted clients in obtaining record deals, performing at national league sporting events and garnering international exposure (via Tom and Shane’s expertise with social media).

He soon landed a position on Entertainment Tonight as a production assistant and was subsequently promoted to talent coordinator.

In 2011, the devastating accident that took Tom’s life, turned Shane’s world upside down. As a form of therapy, he created his now viral video in order to honor and mourn Tom. As a result, he has found a new calling and is slowly regaining the voice he was born with. Shane has vowed to devote himself to the cause of marriage equality, giving interviews to CNN, ABC, E! News, and numerous radio programs and has been invited to write guest blogs for GLAAD, Human Rights Campaign, The Advocate, and The Huffington Post. He is receiving speaking requests from around the world and has been invited to Amsterdam Pride as one of their international guests of honor. Shane has also partnered with Designing Women creator and director and producer of the critically acclaimed Man from Hope, Linda Bloodworth Thomason, in order to make a documentary film about his and Tom’s life together and what happened in the aftermath of Tom’s death. After successfully raising over three-hundred-thousand dollars using the crowd funding website Kickstarter, the film, entitled Bridegroom, An American Love Story, is currently being made.

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Michelle Obama has said a gay teen recently thanked her and the president for their support of gay marriage.


Michelle Obama has said a gay teen recently thanked her and the president for their support of gay marriage.

The First Lady made her comments in an interview with Access Hollywood.

“I’m probably more hopeful than I’ve ever been because I can see the changes and I can see it in our kids,” she said. “I get to see so many great signs of this country’s growth. Kids who now feel like, for the first time, if they’re gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, that they feel like they have a place. … One kid came up to me yesterday on the photo line and he said, I would have committed suicide if it wasn’t for what your husband did.”

Mrs. Obama also listed “important conversations about marriage equality” and repeal of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,” the policy which for 18 years barred gay and bisexual troops from serving openly, as important accomplishments of the Obama administration.


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After Gay Son’s Suicide, Mother Finds Blame in Herself and in Her Church


New York Times feature

RIDGEWOOD, N.J. — When Tyler Clementi told his parents he was gay, two days before he left for Rutgers University in the fall of 2010, he said he had known since middle school.

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After Tyler Clementi, a Rutgers student, died, his parents left their church, because staying there would suggest that they supported its teachings against homosexuality.

Richard Perry/The New York Times

A concert photo of Tyler Clementi hangs in his parents’ home.

“So he did have a side that he didn’t open up to us, obviously,” his mother, Jane Clementi, said, sitting in her kitchen here nearly two years later. “That was one of the things that hurt me the most, that he was hiding something so much. Because I thought we had a pretty open relationship.”

In her surprise, she had peppered him with questions: “How do you know? Who are you going to talk to? Who are you going to tell?” Tyler told a friend that the conversation had not gone well. His father had been “very accepting,” he wrote in a text message. “Mom has basically completely rejected me.”

Three weeks later, he jumped off the George Washington Bridge after discovering that his roommate had used a webcam to spy on him having sex and that he had sent out Twitter messages encouraging others to watch.

An international spotlight turned the episode into a cautionary coming-out story, of a young man struggling with his sexuality and the damage inflicted by bullying. His roommate, Dharun Ravi, was tried and convicted of intimidation and invasion of privacy; he served a short jail sentence. But the trial never directly addressed the question at the heart of the story — what prompted a promising college freshman to kill himself?

It is that question that lingers over the household here on a tidy street in this prosperous suburb.

The Clementis continue to blame the bad luck of a roommate lottery and the cowardice of students who failed to step up and say that the spying was wrong.

But their son’s suicide has also forced changes, and new honesty, upon them. They have left the church that made Ms. Clementi so resistant to her son’s declaration. Their middle son, James, acknowledged what the family had long suspected and said that he, too, was gay. The family is devoting itself to a foundation promoting acceptance with the hope of preventing the suicides of gay teenagers.

Most of all, Ms. Clementi has had to grapple with her own role in Tyler’s death.

“People talk about coming out of the closet — it’s parents coming out of the closet, too,” she said. “I wasn’t really ready for that.”

At the time Tyler sat down to tell his parents he was gay, she believed that homosexuality was a sin, as her evangelical church taught. She said she was not ready to tell friends, protecting her son — and herself — from what would surely be the harsh judgments of others.

“It did not change the fact that I loved my son,” she said. “I did need to think about how that would fit into my thoughts on homosexuality.”

Yet it did not occur to her that Tyler would think she did not accept him. She had long talked with him about how his brother James was gay — though at the time James had not said he was. “Tyler knew we weren’t going to reject him or stop paying for college for him or not let him come home, because James had done all those things and we had a good relationship,” she said.

Tyler’s father, Joe Clementi, characterized the last month in his son’s life as a “rough spot.” But Ms. Clementi said she believed he was “confident, comfortable” in his decision. He left for Rutgers telling his parents about plans to attend events for gay students. He reported having gone to New York with new friends to see plays; his parents took this to mean he was adjusting well.

During a phone call one afternoon he sounded different. “A little sad,” Ms. Clementi said. “I thought maybe it was adjusting to being away. I told him how much I missed him, he got a little teary and told me he’d missed me, too. I thought he’d been away too much.”

That evening, Joe Clementi was awakened by a call from the Port Authority police, saying they had Tyler’s wallet and phone, that he’d been seen — then not seen — on the bridge.

In the months after Tyler’s death, some of Ms. Clementi’s friends confided that they, too, had gay children. She blames religion for the shame surrounding it — in the conversation about coming out, Tyler told his mother he did not think he could be Christian and gay.


“I think some people think that sexual orientation can be changed or prayed over,” she said now, in her kitchen. “But I know sexual orientation is not up for negotiation. I don’t think my children need to be changed. I think that what needed changing is attitudes, or myself, or maybe some other people I know.”

She decided she could no longer attend her church, because doing so would suggest she supported its teachings against homosexuality. And she took strength from reading the Bible as she reconsidered her views.

“At this point I think Jesus is more about reconciliation and love,” she said. “He spoke more about divorce than homosexuality, but you can be divorced and join a church more than you can be gay and join churches.”

What has troubled her most is the thought that Tyler believed she had rejected him.

Joe Clementi argues that his son was speaking with classic teenage exaggeration to a friend, that the remark was taken out of context by people who did not know the family, or the facts. “Just to be clear: Tyler had two parents, and I didn’t have any problem with it,” he said. “He had support.”

But Ms. Clementi can’t dismiss it that easily. “Obviously he felt that way, he needed to tell his friend that.”

Sitting in the courtroom every day during Mr. Ravi’s trial this winter, the Clementis often looked brittle, and rarely spoke. But here in their home, next to the elementary school that all three of their boys attended, they spoke openly. They have also been speaking to school and corporate groups about their experience. And though she supports the prosecution’s appeal of the 30-day sentence Mr. Ravi received on the ground that that it was too short, Ms. Clementi said, “It won’t change my life one way or another.”

It is a relief to have come out of the closet, she said. “It is not something I would have done on my own.”

She thinks often about her last phone call with Tyler, hours before he went to the bridge.

“I was sitting right over there,” she said, pointing to a corner of the kitchen. They had what seemed like an innocuous discussion about whether his parents should take Tyler’s bike to Rutgers for him. It was expensive and beloved, and he had not wanted it stolen.

“He got very teary and wistful — ‘Oh, my bike, I forgot about my bike,’ ” she recalled. “After the fact I think about it in different terms, but at the time, I didn’t. He said, ‘No, keep it at home.’ ”

She cannot recall how they said goodbye.

“It was probably the way we said goodbye all the time,” she said. “ ‘Goodbye, I love you,’ ‘I love you more.’ That was the way we usually ended it. I’m sure that’s how we ended it that time, too.”


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Ten scouts resign in show of support for fired gay staffer

Wednesday, July 25, 2012 – 1:49pm by Seth Adam, GLAAD’s Senior Manager of Communications

Ten staffers at a California Boy Scouts camp have resigned in a show of support for fellow staffer and Eagle Scout Tim Griffin (right), who was fired last week because he’s gay. Griffin had served at the camp for eight years.

“They told me in a very harsh way that I don’t embody the true Scouting spirit,” Griffin told The Sacramento Bee of his firing.

A representative for the Boy Scouts of America (BSA) denies that Griffin was fired because of his sexual orientation, however, saying, “What it came down to was his failure to comply with management regarding a uniform issue. We gave him plenty of warnings.”

But fellow staffers aren’t buying it. “It was absolutely about his sexual orientation, no question about it,” Eagle Scout Graham Littlejohn, toldThe Bee.

Last week, the BSA announced that a secret committee had reviewed and unanimously decided to maintain the Scouts’ ban on gay troops and leaders, noting that, for the Scouts, discrimination is “absolutely the best policy.”

Pressure continues to mount, however, with over 300,000 Americans signing a petition calling on the BSA to end its long history of discrimination, members of the BSA Executive Board speaking out in support of ending the ban, and media outlets such as The New York Times urging the Scouts to accept gay members.

Additionally, thousands of Scouts are speaking out against the policy and joining Eagle Scout Zach Wahls in helping create change from within the BSA through organizations likeScouts for Equality. Some have even returned their badges in protest of the discrimination.

And over 135,000 Americans – Scouts and civilians alike – are calling on the BSA to allow its Executive Board to vote on ending the ban.

What’s clear is that Americans are not tolerating this policy, and they’re showing no signs of standing down. Now, it’s up to the BSA to answer their call.

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