Some gays want to have their cake and eat it too. That means being in a ‘friends with benefits’ situation. They are with one person, but both of them want to sleep with other people too and do that openly. There attention spans are on the shorter side and that’s fine. What isn’t fine is if that’s how you view relationships and you get involved with someone who doesn’t view it that way. You got to bring that up immediately so as not to waste anyone’s time. It’s also not a gay thing. Straight people do that too. Gays are not trying to conform to anything. Only the stereotypical gays are trying to give reasons as to why some of them are against monogamy. That’s not a gay thing. That’s a current, modern day society thing. Some are meant for committed relationships while others are not regardless of gender or orientation.