Monthly Archives: June 2012

please help me i am 16 and came out to my parents and my mom slapped me and started yelling at me

Question:

please help me i am 16 and came out to my parents and my mom slapped me and started yelling at me and now she says she is gonna turn me straight if its the last thing she does

im so scared what do i do?

Answer:

I’m sorry to hear that.  It’s best not to come out to those close to you unless you feel it’s completely safe.  Now that you have and she wasn’t exactly what one could call a mother, I would back away from the gay topic with her indefinitely.  If she brings it up again just deny you’re gay.  Go along with her simply for survival reasons.  Meanwhile you’ll most likely be out of the house by 18 or at least work to get out of the house by then.  Once you’re safely on your own, then give it to her.  Tell her how you feel and that you were disappointed in her original reaction.  At that point she’ll be free to wallow in denial and you’ll be long gone and happier.

Categories: Bullying, Gay Teens

N.Y. Teen Blinded After Being Assaulted by Anti-Gay Bullies

Kardin Ulysse (middle)

Kardin Ulysse (middle)  

A teen from Brooklyn, one of the five boroughs of New York City, is blind in one eye after he was physically assaulted by bullies who hurled homophobic slurs at him in a school cafeteria, New York Daily News reported.

Kardin Ulysse, 14, who was beaten on June 5 at Roy H. Mann Junior High School, has undergone two eye surgeries. The Daily News says it is unclear if Ulysse went blind from the bullies’ multiple punches to the face or from the shards of lens from his eyeglasses that damaged his cornea.

“My son is very upset. He says, ’Daddy, am I ever going to be able to see again?’ ” Pierre Ulysse, Kardin’s father, said.

“The doctor says he needs a transplant,” he said. “For me to send him to school with two eyes and come back with one eye is really absurd. I want the world to know about this,” he said.

According to a report by the New York City Department of Education the eight-grader says two seventh-graders attacked him and called him a “fucking faggot,” a “transvestite,” “gay” and other anti-gay slurs. One of the bullies held Kardin down while the other brutally punched his face, head and neck. The teen managed to break away but the fight continued until school officials finally stopped the assault.

The Ulysse family is planning to sue the city for $16 million for “failing to properly supervise the students,” the publication says.

The family’s lawyer, Sanford Rubenstein, requested that authorities look into the attack to find out if it was a hate crime so he can upgrade the criminal charges to felonies. Since the attackers are under the age of 18 they were charged with misdemeanors in Family Court.

When the media asked Kardin why the bullies used anti-gay slurs the teen said, “I think he said that to hurt me and because he’s a bad person.”

Kardin says he has been a victim of bullying for a while and claims that in October a bully assaulted him and tried to take his lunch money. Parents of a 13-year-old student filed a lawsuit against the school last year for bullying, the article notes.

The spokesman for the Department of Education said Kardin’s incident is being taken “very seriously” by the school’s principle who contacted the authorities at the time of fight.

A survey from the department showed that 63% of the students at Roy H. Mann said they were harassed or threatened by a classmate at least once last year based on their race, religion, ethnicity, citizenship status, sexual orientation or gender.

The survey also said that 40% of the students didn’t feel safe in the building and 44% said that students threaten or bully other students “most of the time” or “all of the time.”

It’s no surprise that bullying in schools has become a major issue in the past few years as it has gained massive media attention. Bullying impacts LGBT students as well as straight students.

Earlier this month a family from New Jersey filed a federal lawsuit against a school for not doing enough to protect their son from being constantly bullied because classmates thought he was gay. After parents spoke with school officials, the administration told them that their son should “make new friends,” “enroll in sports” or move to a new school district.

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Group of New York Teens Abuse and Bully a Female Bus Monitor in Horrific Video: WATCH

KleinKaren Huff Klein is a bus monitor at the Greece Central School District in Rochester, NY. This is probably not the right job for her but there is no excuse for the horrendous bullying Klein endures in this video by a group of teens, which drives her to tears. Here’s her Facebook page.

As our tipster noted, it’s extremely difficult to watch.

Among the taunts: “Dumb-ass, fat-ass.” “Maybe she is an elephant.” “She’s gonna pick out which kid she’s gonna rape next.” “Karen wants herpes.” “F**king hearing aid.” “I’ll egg your house.” “What’s your address so I can p*ss all over your door.” “I’ll f**king take a cr*p in your mouth.” “You touched her arm flap. It’s all stinky and smelly.” “She probably eats deodorant because she can’t afford real food.” “What size bra are you? Triple sag?”


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Watch (warning: language and very difficult video to watch), AFTER THE JUMP

It’s time to step in and come to Karen Huff Klein’s aid.  Law officials are promising the kids will be brought to justice.

If the kids are old enough to behave like this then they’re old enough to face the consequences including being ostracized.  Some of the kids names are:

Luis Recio

Wesley Helm

Brandon Teng

Tyler Warren

Read more: http://www.towleroad.com/2012/06/monitor.html#ixzz1yMk5pKWM

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Michael Jackson’s daughter Paris opens up that she was also bullied

Michael Jackson’s 14-year-old daughter Paris told Oprah in an exclusive interview that she was bullied after her home schooling ended.

“They try to get to me with words,” the 14-year-old told Oprah.  Love this girl.

Michael Jackson's Daughter Paris: I Was Bullied

Paris Jackson has revealed that life hasn’t been easy since she moved to a private school, and that’s not only because of the death of her father and his high-profile but because of school bullies.

The teen might be a multi-millionairess and daughter of the late ‘Thriller’ singer but it seems that she still has to go through what most teenagers do, and that unfortunately includes being a victim of bullies.

“People try, but it doesn’t always work,” the 14-year-old said. “They try to get to me with words.”

Paris continued to say that the bullying has been done in-person as well as cyber.

But, much like her father, she has learned to deal with it, especially when it comes to dealing with seemingly friendly people with not so good intentions.

“If I feel someone is being fake to me,” she told Oprah, “I will just push them away.”

Paris said the bullying began after she stopped being home schooled, and she was never sure when people were trying to get close to her to take advantage of her, the U.K. Daily Mail reported.

She said she didn’t know why people chose to bully her and whether peer pressure or personal antipathy were to blame.

The daughter of the late King of Pop also opened up about her unusual childhood and the masks her father made her and her siblings wear when they were in public.

“I was really confused,” she said of the disguises, one of many eccentricities of the former frontman of the Jackson 5. “I didn’t get why I was wearing a mask. But I understand it now.”

Paris said she is still struggling to cope with the death of her father almost three years ago, Paris said.

“It never gets any easier,” she told Oprah.

Paris Jackson Avoids Bullies At School

The Many Faces of the Man in the Mirror

Source: http://www.nbcchicago.com/entertainment/celebrity/Paris-Jackson-I-was-bullied-when-I-started-school-158437685.html#ixzz1yHbyI33M

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How do Gay Teens feel about their attractiveness?

A Forum asked: Does it bother you that you’re not attractive?

Here are some of their responses:

Location: Isle of Wight, UK
Talevarde wrote:

“I think I look semi-okay in front of the mirror. But 99% of the time when I look at a photo of myself, I immediately think “Oh damn, how can anyone be so hideous?”.
Location: Nottingham
“I wish I looked better… I was I was taller too. I don’t like being short for a boy.

It does bother me sometimes that I’m not good looking, but yeah, sort of have to deal with it.”

“I don’t think I’m attractive, but other’s do, so not really, no.”

“Uh so one of my dreams has been to be a trophy husband (another is just sleeping up the corporate ladder cause office sex is hot), so yea it bothers me I’m not modelesque, but I like making lemonade. Oh and I’m a genius, so I forgive my parents for the ugly genes.”

“Lol I have friends and a boyfriend who said I am pretty/beautiful/cute/hot.. All that good stuff. I like 95% of time think I am hot in photos to the point I check myself out BUT oddly I get insecure when total strangers don’t like me and such! Plus I am a FB social person sooo yeah.. If I don’t get any ‘likes’ I feel so sad sometimes. <<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<< story of my life”

Location: Northeast London
“I go from vain to self loathing and everywhere in between, but that’s just life.”

Location: London, England
“I cannot see why such things would bother anyone, unless they’re losing out on a good relationship over it, there are far more important things to worry about.”

Location: Her Majesty’s Garden
PatrickMCooney wrote:
“I go from vain to self loathing and everywhere in between, but that’s just life.”

“Society in general tends to respect good-looking people more than the ugly ones so yeah, its a big deal.”

Location: London, England
“Then you must gain respect in other ways, there’s no way to change it, so deal with it.”

“I’m definitely not hot (I get “cute” a fair bit).  Sometimes when I look at myself in the mirror I think that I look OK, but in pic I reflect and vilify myself. Overall, though, I haven’t had trouble being social since I came out, but I did feel the need to lose some weight and buy new clothes in order to be truly fulfilled in that department. I still have some self-confidence issues, but they’re not nearly as bad as before. Maybe I’m just shallow, but as long as I am happy with myself, I don’t really care what other people think.”

“I’m basically the same. I do get called awkwardly cute a lot though which I hope is a compliment.”

“If you can make someone laugh your degree of attractiveness doesn’t matter….I find this generally true, although it’s known that some gays are incredibly vain.”

“Yeah, that’s why I’ve been taking steps to look better. Be the best you can be!”

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Caiden Cowger spews hatred against certain people on the radio then cries about it later

CHARLESTON, W.Va. — An Upshur County teen who earned Internet infamy last week for making anti-gay comments has vowed to stand his ground.

Caiden Cowger, 14, a self-proclaimed “conservative Internet radio talk show host,” bashed gays in a recent video, labeling the practice “perverted” and “disgusting.”

“It’s getting worse where I’m at,” Cowger said in the video, which was reposted by TMZ.com after he claims his YouTube account was hacked and deleted Wednesday. “I see younger people that is turning out to be homosexuals …  all of them are starting to turn to homosexuals. …  And it is sickening. It sickens me.”

Cowger argued that homosexuality is a belief, not a decision, and that gay people are “not born that way, no matter what Lady GaGa says.”

He’s of course 100% dead wrong, but anyone who has any level of a brain knows that.

Cowger attacked President Barack Obama, alleging he is encouraging homosexuality.

“(Obama) is saying ‘Homosexuals, you can get married, and it’s all right, it’s all right to be gay, we’ll make it better for you,'” Cowger said in his video.

That’s fed to him by those around him as Obama has done no such thing.

“I’m going to tell you this, guys. President Obama, Vice President Biden, is making kids gay!” he shouted. “They are encouraging kids to think, ‘You know what, they’re talking about being a homosexual, and they’re saying that there’s nothing wrong with being gay, so you know what? I think I might try that out for a little bit.'”

Cowger’s previous shows, which were hosted on audio hosting website spreaker.com, were removed from the site Friday due to “offensive contents.”

“While we not only support free speech, we help it find its way to more people faster and easier with our service that is the audio equivalent of YouTube, but like them, we cannot and will not condone hate speech,” said Spreaker CEO Francesco Baschieri in a statement released Saturday.

“Consequently, we have pulled down audio content from Caiden Cowgar (sic), whose recent gay-bashing clearly crosses the line from free — to hate — speech.”

Cowger created a new YouTube account shortly after his previous account was deleted. In a video uploaded to his new account on Thursday, he defended his prior statements and vowed to stay on the air, citing his First Amendment rights.

He has that right to bash, just like we all have the right to bash and fight back!

“I have every right to voice my opinion. I have every right to express my views. And who are you to try to stop me? You’re trying to shut me down because of what I have to say,” Cowger said. “You’re not going to silence me. I have every right to voice my opinion and I plan on doing this for a long time. So good luck, you’re going to have to put up with me.”

He’s also going to have to put up with us for a very long time too!

In his May 30 show, Cowger specifically called out Fairness West Virginia, a civil rights advocacy organization for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender persons. He said because of the organization, which he called “stupid,” a young boy in his church felt bullied when a girl told him she prayed for him.

Dr. Coy Flowers, M.D., president of the board of directors of Fairness West Virginia, said it is unfortunate that government policies allow hate speech to flourish.

“The environment needs to change,” Flowers said, saying that Cowger is a product of his environment. “We need to change governmental policies to send a message to everybody that everybody is equal under the law.”

Flowers added he doesn’t want national or in-state media to believe behavior like Cowger’s is the norm among West Virginia’s youth.

“He’s 14. I don’t think anyone should be incredibly hard on him personally,” Flowers said. “This is an isolated 14-year-old who is unwise in the things he chose to say. I hope the media chooses to focus on the vast majority of West Virginians who have respect and dignity for their peers.”

Caiden Cowger is a perfect example of someone who does not think for themselves.    The drivel he cites is all hate speech that has been fed to him by his parents, relatives and his church.  He simply doesn’t know any better.

On Wednesday, Cowger’s controversial clip landed on the homepages of popular news sites such as Huffington Post, BuzzFeed and TMZ. The postings provoked a flood of mostly negative comments toward Cowger.

On his website, he says that June is no longer one of his favorite months because Obama named it Gay Pride Month.

Cowger, a Pentecostal Christian who has interviewed former West Virginia Senate candidate John Raese and former Republican presidential candidate Herman Cain on his show, started “The Caiden Cowger Program” on Dec. 5, 2010. On the show’s Facebook page, he lists Rush Limbaugh and Glenn Beck as his “personal interests,” and writes that the 2004 presidential election spurred his interest in politics when he was 8 years old.

Cowger’s show airs at 7 p.m. Wednesdays and Fridays on his website, www.caidencowgerprogram.com.

Cowger could not be reached for comment Thursday or Sunday (naturally). An email and multiple Facebook messages to Cowger went unanswered (surprise, surprise).

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This is Gay Pride Month and I’ve never been a fan of Pride.

This is Gay Pride Month and I’ve never been a fan of Pride.  I’ve been to a few of them and I found them to be boring.  It had nothing to do with gay rights.  It was all about sex and picking people up.  I’m certainly not a prude and if that’s someone’s thing then great, but for Pride I expect a bit more integrity.  Instead there was a lot of judgment.  If that wasn’t going on then advertisers were shoving their products down your throat.

I get why Pride started in the first place, but it no longer has any meaning and hasn’t for quite some time. Don’t call it Pride. Call it what it really is. It’s a gay party. They should call it “Gay Party 2012”. You go to a Greek Festival or the Renaissance Fair and things like that and you find good food, great history about that culture or the origins of the festival, but you don’t see anything like that at Pride.  Everyone is walking around in a thong. Um-ok.

I’m not saying anything that isn’t untrue.  Let’s face it, when people who despise gays think of an image of someone who is gay, they’re thinking of someone dressed in leather with his ass hanging out.  How about the real gays, the hard working ones who have been in long relationships and raising a family and have a career?  I’ve never see that at Pride.

Another contributor eloquently wrote….

Ok, ever since I moved out here to L.A. from the midwest and have been exposed to more of the “gay”, I have been told from all sides what it is and means to be gay. Well let me tell all y’all sons of bitches what being gay is not.

Before we go into details here, let’s define a few terms.

Community – a social group of any size whose members reside in a specific locality, share government, and often have a common cultural and historical heritage.

Culture – 1. the quality in a person or society that arises from a concern for what is regarded as excellent in arts, letters, manners, scholarly pursuits, etc. 2. the sum total of ways of living built up by a group of human beings and transmitted from one generation to another.

Personally, I do not like the terms “gay community” and “gay culture”. By definition they just don’t make any sense to me. Both terms imply that a particular group of people share distinct aspects of their lives. Whether it is a religion, the way they live, traditions passed down, its a common factor that specifically defines them and binds them as a distinct group. Now… How does being gay define us as a community or culture? Homosexuality is not a lifestyle, a religion, a language, a dance or anything else that defines a culture or community. Homosexuality is a sexuality and that is it. Its a factor that knows no bounds. There are gays of every race, religion, etc. If you go to a gay club/bar (or anywhere else that gays gather) you will see them dressing differently, speaking different languages, some act “femme”, some act “straight”, and they are of different races. Chances are, the only thing that they may have in common is that they are gay. Being gay alone by no means binds us together as a distinct group. You can’t look at a diverse group of homosexuals and just outright know and say…yup…thar be a gaggle of gays…

Like I said before, ever since I moved out here to L.A. I have been bombarded with stereotypes, harassment, and pressure as to what a gay person should do or shouldn’t do…how a gay person should act….how a gay person should dress, etc.. You see it in magazines, online, at clubs/bars and on TV. For the most part the ones who have been the most hateful and the most adamant about what a gay person is has not been the bigots…..its been other homos. From the outside in, when you look at the things displayed on TV, in magazines, online, etc…for the most part all you see are the stereotypes….the very stereotypes that the majority of us cannot stand. No one likes it when it is just assumed you’ll talk, act, dress or do anything that you do not. You don’t like it…I don’t like it….so why harp on me and bash me because I am not someone you think I should be based on your closed minded views. Now there’s some irony. I’ve been called closed minded and conservative because I don’t like or do certain things. Hey, live your life and do as you will, just don’t pressure me to do the same.

Now lets go into what gay is not…

Being gay does not mean that all you do is sleep around. Being gay does not mean that you go to clubs and listen to techno music. Being gay does not mean that when you want to go on a cruise, it is to sleep around on a floating sex party. Being gay does not mean that I should style my hair into a faux hawk. Being gay doesn’t mean that I talk with a lisp or walk like a runway model. Being gay doesn’t mean that I have “femme” attributes. Being gay doesn’t mean I spend every second of my free time working out. Being gay does not mean that I wear tight cloths. Being gay does not mean that I will only dress in expensive cloths of expensive labels. Being gay doesn’t mean that I own anything that is Gucci or Prada. Being gay doesn’t mean that I want to live in West Hollywood or San Francisco. Being gay doesn’t mean that I have a “fag hag”. Being gay does not mean anything that you may assume about me.

What does being gay mean? It fucking means that you are gay!!! It means that and only that. I may or may not have have or do any of what the above statements say being gay is not, but none of the above defines me as gay. Hell, on any bright, sunny day you can find a heterosexual having or doing one or more of the above.

No one can tell me what I should or shouldn’t do as a “good gay”. I will be gay my own way and I urge everyone else to do the same. Do not give into pressure to be someone you are not. When you look in the mirror you should be proud of that person looking back at you rather than looking at that person and wondering what you should change about that person because others think you should.

I am just an average guy. I moved away from the midwest in order to find myself and to heal a shattered heart. I have my own values and comfort factor for how I choose to live. I am gay and I will tell someone when asked and when appropriate, but I won’t and don’t wear a sign proclaiming it. I am in love with a man who has filled in that missing part of my heart. I am a hopeless romantic. Simply I am me…I’m the person I am comfortable being and no one will pressure or force me to be anyone but who I am…

Laters…

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Debbie Piscitella gets kudos for allegedly choking a 14-year old boy to protect her daughter from being cyber-bullied on Facebook.

Debbie Piscitella allegedly choked a 14-year old boy to protect her daughter from being cyber-bullied on Facebook.  Before you fling your hands up in an uproar.  The boy had it coming.

Debbie Piscitella took the act of protecting her daughter too far when she allegedly choked the girl’s bully during an encounter in a local mall, according to the Huffington Post. The bully, whose name has not been released, allegedly made fun of the girl’s weight on facebook, and said she “didn’t deserve to live,” among other cruel things, according to ABC.

During a segment on Good Morning America, Piscitella, who was arrested for child abuse after allegedly attacking the 14-year old boy, stated that she “lost it” and does regret her actions.

It’s unfortunate she was arrested, but I still stand by her.  If the boy’s parents aren’t going to do anything about it and neither is anyone else, then sometimes we take matters into our own hands.  However, in all fairness to the boy’s parents, they apparently didn’t know he was harassing this poor girl.  Next time as much as you want to kick the boys ass, just go to the boys parents and let them take care of that.

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Caiden Cowger, Conservative Teen Radio Host delivers anti-gay rhetoric speech

Caiden Cowger

Meet your enemy! A West Virginia-based teen radio host is making waves after proclaiming that President Obama “is making kids gay” in a recent episode.

Fourteen-year-old Caiden Cowgirl, I mean Caiden Cowger, who hosts the twice-weekly “Caiden Cowger Show,” made his anti-gay proclamations in a recent broadcast, video of which was uploaded to his YouTube channel on May 26. “Homosexuality is a belief,” Cowger, who has previously interviewed former GOP presidential candidate Herman Cain, declares. “The person is not born that way, no matter what Lady Gaga says…it is a decision.”

Homosexuality is of course not a belief.  No one chooses to be gay.  No one chooses a life that would permanently ostracize them by dweebs like Caiden Cowger.

After confessing that he was once friends with some kids who have since come out as gay, he notes, “They were not homosexuals [then]…they just decided all of a sudden, ‘I think I’m going to be gay,'” before he eventually concludes, “I’m going to tell you this, guys: President Obama…Vice President Biden…is making kids gay!”

Cowger, who is identified by The New Civil Rights Movement as a Pentecostal Christian, slams homosexuality as “a perverted belief, it’s immoral and not natural” before noting, “I’m not for bullying homosexuals, I believe that it’s wrong. But when you’re trying to teach them the word of God and they consider that bullying…I find that a big problem, not being allowed to convert other people to my religion.”

On his Facebook page, Cowger cites Rush Limbaugh and Glenn Beck as his influences, but professes, “I make up my own mind. People don’t do that for me. I can make deside [sic] my own beliefs.”  That’s also not the case.  Caiden Cowger does not think for himself.  He spews out hateful rhetoric that is spit out by those around him.  He’s a follower, not a leader.

This isn’t the first time Cowger has slammed the Obama administration. Noting that June is “no longer one of [his] favorite months” on his website, he adds, “I want STRAIGHT PRIDE MONTH! I mean, fair is fair here!”  He’s also an idiot because there is no need for Straight Pride Month.  Straight people are not bothered and condemned the way Gays are.  The tables need to be turned so we can start harassing and bothering people like Caiden Cowger, then he can have his little straight pride month.

Conservative Blogger, Dana Loesch, goes on a rampage against others for not defending this teen that delivered hate speech towards an entire group.  The reason she goes on a rampage is because she sides with him.  If the teen had attacked her and her ways or her Tea Party then she’d have a field day with that.  All people are asking is for a little respect.  The reason they attacked the kid, deservedly so, is because he’s spewing hate.

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Facebook supports the gays

At the GLAAD Media Awards last weekend, Facebook was recognized for its support and protection of the LGBT community over the past couple years.

But why, you ask, would an ostensibly neutral, public platform want to support and protect any group of users, especially ones in such a controversial demographic?

In a video sent to the GLAAD gathering, Sheryl Sandberg speaks to the lesbians, gay men, bisexual and transgendered folks, and their straight allies in the audience, saying, “We’re committed to helping people express who they really are,” referencing the site’s “in a domestic partnership” and “in a civil union” relationship statuses, but also nodding to the company’s ongoing work with GLAAD to stop online bullying, harassment, and hate speech towards LGBT youth and adults.

“We’re grateful for all you do in the world and honored to be able to build technology which can support your efforts,” Sandberg said.

Facebook was recognized by GLAAD for its years of work to stop online bullying of gay youth in particular, an effort that was spurred by a rash of high-profile gay teen suicides in 2010. We were on hand to capture the awards show itself, a star-studded event that highlighted the importance of positive LGBT role models and fair and accurate portrayals of gay folks in the media.

Accepting the award for Facebook were Andrew Noyes and Sara Sperling, whose longer comments about the “network effect” of creating an LGBT safe space online and the stories Facebookers see and hear about their gay users are included in the extra clip below at around 2:15.

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