Monthly Archives: February 2012

Cody Rogers, an 18-year-old from Tulsa, Oklahoma, was beaten unconscious at a party over the weekend because he is gay

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Cody Rogers, a wonderful and amazing 18-year-old from Tulsa, Oklahoma, was beaten unconscious at a party over the weekend because he is gay. FOX 23 reports:

Rogers is slowly starting to heal. “There were some ladies who invited their boyfriends (to a going away party) who had a problem with some of the homosexuals that were there.”

Cody could hear the homophobic slurs from another room, and when those boyfriends were asked to leave the apartment, one refused.

That person attacked cody’s friend, a 21 year-old girl.

“I stepped in and they threw me to the ground, obviously, I’m a little beat up,” Cody said. As he was on the ground,  the two teens attacking him kept shouting the slurs. His friends were shocked to see it all unfold.

 

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Bullied teen’s friends protest school’s lack of action

According to CBC News
A group of students at a Fredericton high school staged a protest Friday over what they call a lack of action by school administrators to stop bullying.

A teenager was removed last month from Leo Hayes High School by his parents because he was a targeted and harassed by an ex-girlfriend.

At noon, about a dozen of his fellow students protested on a street just off school property.

“Administration could have stuck up for him and they could have told him that everything’s going to be OK, they would have dealt with it,” said the teen’s friend Sean Hutton.

“But no, they decided to just leave it alone and look, he’s out of the province.”

The school already has an active student anti-bullying support group including members of Friday’s protest.

“There’s been bullying at my school and the principal says he’s doing something about it, but he’s not,” said Grade 9 student Katherine Graves.

“I think he should have like handled it better and like did something to the person who bullied him. Like, made consequences and stuff. But instead, it was the one who got bullied had to suffer.”

Principal Kevin Pottle wouldn’t discuss the case of the bullied student who left Leo Hayes HS.

The province plans to bring in anti-bullying legislation. But Pottle said he isn’t sure that tougher rules are the answer.

“If legislation provides more guidance counsellors, more social workers, more school psychologists, you’re going to have an impact. Simply giving the school, in essence, a bigger hammer — I’m not sure that, in the end, addresses it.”

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Beautiful poem posting by Thomas “T.J.” Lane

Beautiful dark poem posting by Thomas “T.J.” Lane.

“In a quaint lonely town, sits a man with a frown. No job. No family. No crown.  His luck had run out.  Lost and alone.  

So, to the castle he proceeds, like an ominous breeze through the trees.  ‘Stay back!’ The Guards screamed as they were thrown to their knees.  ‘Oh God, have mercy, please!'”

He did not commit suicide, but instead went on a shooting rampage at his Ohio High School, killing and injuring several.  His actions were not so beautiful.

Students at his high school say that he was “shy and targeted by bullies” and yet the schools, government and parents all did nothing as usual.   What will it take to wake them up?

The psychologist is a joke using stereotypes to find out why this happened.  No, his postings were not signs of disaster, his postings were poetic.  If they were signs of disaster or doom someone would have addressed it a long time ago. Don’t wait until after the event to look back in hindsight.  His postings showed nothing but an eloquent kid.  This would’ve been anyone’s first thought had he done gone a shooting rampage.

Lonely? Who isn’t lonely? There are millions of people with an abusive parent and they manage to get through life without killing anyone so that’s also not a telling sign. They all got nothing on this kid and no concrete sign that he would do what he was going to do. It’s all stereotyping and speculation as usual.  Wow sometimes I wonder how these psychologist get their degrees.

The bottom line is this goes right back to the schools, government and parents who still do nothing to stop bullying or troubled teens.

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Madonna – Girl Gone Wild lyrics and music

For the girls out there and anyone else interested, here is some fun on here for a change.  Madonna’s second single from her yet to be released CD, “MDNA” due out March 26th.

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Drew Ferraro, 15, committed suicide due to bullying and harassment despite authorities typical denials.

Drew Ferraro

Drew Ferraro, 15, committed suicide due to bullying and harassment despite authorities typical denials.

Glendale Unified School District officials and Los Angeles County sheriff’s investigators said this week they don’t believe that bullying was a factor in the death of a 15-year-old student who jumped to his death at Crescenta Valley High School earlier this month.

The parents of the student, Drew Ferraro, told KCBS-TV in an interview this week that their son wrote in journal entries that he was the target of harassment at school, including name-calling and pushing, and that the incidents might have been a factor in his death.

Drew jumped from the roof of a three-story school building onto a concrete courtyard during the lunch period on Feb. 10, horrifying witnesses and stunning the larger community.

“The fact that he did do it at school, to me, was a huge statement,” his mother, Deana Ferraro said during the television interview.

Los Angeles Sheriff’s Lt. John Corina on Wednesday said the bullying issue was not raised by friends, teachers or family members during the early hours of the investigation.

Corina also said Drew did not reference bullying in any of the four suicide notes found on his body.“His suicide notes were very telling,” Corina told the Glendale News-Press. “They didn’t mention anything about being abused or being bullied. He gave a different reason for doing what he did.”Investigators were not aware of the existence of Drew’s journal until it came out in the media this week, Corina said, adding that investigators did not plan to review the journal.

“This is a kid here who had problems,” Corina said. “I think he was suffering from deep depression. I think the parents were working with him and were aware of the problem. But we will never understand why he chose to take his life the way he did. That was his decision.”

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Dude 101 – The Sex App excerpt

The Sex App

One of the greatest and worst technological inventions is the Sex App.  This is what I’m going to call it to keep it anonymous.  It markets itself as a buddy finder, but it’s a hook up finder.

It is what you make of it and the majority of users have made it into a sleazy mobile application.  When I began my research and downloaded the application I found 141 messages waiting for me by the end of the day.  Half of them said, “Hey.”  This assisted me in narrowing it down by deleting and blocking those.  If a guy can’t take the time to construct a proper sentence to me, then it’s not worth my time.  Time is something I value preciously.  I ended up blocking 73 people in under a week.  That number rose by the end of my investigation.

There will be dudes that benefit from the Sex App, but whether they’ll meet someone worthy of their time that can grow into a healthy relationship is hugely questionable and doubtful.  Those that will get a great benefit from it are those that don’t know any better and lack any real drive.  It’s a boredom application for the gays.  It’s for those that are looking for sex.  If this is why you’re using it, then you’ll be in Heaven as there should be no problem finding a hook up and for this I would highly recommend it.  You may not find the greatest lay on there, but you’ll get your tool worked on or a nice ass pounding depending on which side you flip.

As for dating and relationships, this is on there as the worst place to find him.  There are decent people wherever you go, but the truth is if you’re looking for a strong put together man, he will not be hanging on it.  The guy is too productive to bother and has too much dignity to reduce himself to the level of hanging on a used meat rack.

The majority of guys that messaged me began with a simple salutation.  By message two or three they had already sent me a photo of their cock, ass, chest or any other relevant body part in hopes of enticing to me follow the scent.  Half of them asked if they could give me a blowjob. Some guys offered to pay me to suck on my cock.  I politely ignored them.

The Sex App has taken the dating game to a lower level of connecting.  It would appear that this clever app would be a brilliant invention and on the surface it is.  Where else can you find an app that shows you what gay guys are closest to you at that moment?  You can choose to engage in meaningless one or two worded banter back and forth a few times.  Eventually decide whether they’re relevant enough to go and meet a block away or at your place for some hooking up.   Want to get laid?  Then that’s the application for you.  Calling it the ‘buddy finder’ is misleading when it should be called the ‘fuck finder.’  The developer and founder of the sex app came on to me as well.  I wouldn’t have expected anything less.  He was quick and to the point.  I banned and blocked him in the end.

One of the main problems I found with the application was that out of all the people that contacted me, not one was significant enough to peak my interest in meeting for anything.  Not even the ones with the photos of their flawless torsos.  The guys on the application showed me that they couldn’t tell the difference between quality and quantity anyway.   Everything is what you make it and if this is what has been made of it, then the truth is telling in the kinds of relationships that can be formed with one another.

Final Review: Looking for some handsome stud that you can one day marry?  He won’t be on the Sex Application.

Looking to fuck?  Then you can catch him on there.  The Sex App is the quickest way to HIV.  Why do I need a boyfriend when I can find yours on the Sex App.

If you live in a small town and you’ve been isolated for years, this application may work in your favor.  That way you can meet the other six gay people in your area and form a friendship (or more).  Everywhere else where there are more guys than you can keep track of, the application is a waste of valuable time that ultimately leads to getting into your pants even by those that insist that its not what they’re looking for.  They’re the worst offenders as they’re leading you with deception.

The younger gay generations who are looking to be accepted by their peers will be gravely misled and disappointed to find it to be all about sex, rather than relationships based on substance.  The app is aimed at the intellectually retarded and socially incompetent.

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Gay Teens Talk Christianity

What GLBT Youth Have to Say About Their Experiences

By , About.com Guide
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A lot of gay teens have experiences with religion. These can be both positive and negative. Here GLBT teens share some of their thoughts on this force in their lives.

From Derin

I’m 16 and my parents are hardcore Catholics that hate homosexuals, so when my friends accidentally let slip that I was gay over this summer, my life was hell and kind of still is. I have to lie a lot and lie about where I go and what I’m doing. It’s weird, my parents will actually let me go over to a guy’s house but not a girl’s.

I think about God, and I wonder if I’m here to show God if my parents can love me as I am. [Though] so far they haven’t. My parents think they’re open minded and good, but the way they indirectly hate me hurts a lot.

From purple kazoo

I’ve been out [as a lesbian] for about two months just because I can’t keep my secrets and my immediate family is Unitarian Universalist, that is, really liberal and totally accepting.

From Bee

Being gay is most defiantly not wrong. It’s something you can’t choose or stop. I take it as a gift & an honor because not every one can handle it. I believe everyone that’s gay is special in God’s eyes because He only picks the strong ones that he knows can handle it.

From Nick

I might be bisexual. I am not fully sure yet. Anyways, I am Christian and God loves us all. I don’t think he would put people like us on this planet if he did not want them. My older brother recently became a “Hard-core” Christian. So I never asked him if he thinks gay people go against Christianity. I was raised a Christian and I still am.

Many teenagers have become atheists. I have seen it and most teenagers I talk to are atheists. I still go about the Christian belief. I was born this way, I used to hate it. Now I do not really care. I haven’t come out yet, but I do not wish I was different anymore. I am just worried about the future and what I am going to do. God bless.

From Mhhhhmz

I went through A LOT when I came out. I am a Christian even though I am gay. But I don’t understand why, just because I’m gay, I have to choose my faith or love. It’s just wrong. I have been with a certain girl for over a year and I am very happy. You can’t control who you fall in love with. You just can’t. So, all the gays out there, don’t think there is something wrong with you. There is NOTHING wrong. All you can do is accept yourself. I hope everyone finds who they are and how to deal with it.

From Steven

I choose to be celibate, though I am very much gay and a born again Christian. I understand that many people have trouble accepting me. That’s exactly what it is – it is THEIR problem. After a lot of crying and some wonderful counselors, I have accepted myself completely and am so wonderfully at peace with myself.

From lesbiangirl

Many [gay guys and lesbians] turn away from religion, which should be a place to turn to for comfort, God loves everyone! so why would we chose to let all of this happen to us? We don’t. We just accept reality that people are stupid and hateful.

From TheOddOne

I came out to my religious group that I was trans (ftm) and man did they flip their lids. Every now and then I have someone [else] yell at me for it, but not in the way “they” [my religious group] did. I was told over and over again that trans people didn’t exist (“Oh,” I thought, “but I’m right here”) and that God had this “plan” for me as a girl (Yeah, a plan for me to try to kill myself, no doubt). So they set up a trans-reversal thing on me–stupid idiots couldn’t figure out why I was so sad and miserable after that. It’s a wonder I still believe in God after all that…

From Hannah

i really love Jesus and i love women and i really beleive that Jesus loves me. it can be really hard for a gay Christian teen to accept themselves, or to find where they stand with scripture, especially if your church is anti-gay. but personally i find that the best way of discerning god’s plans for you, is to ask him 🙂

i’m just saying that for anyone who truly loves god and feels they are gay, don’t despair- you’re not alone! don’t be disillusioned by extreme fundamentalists telling you that there’s something wrong with you.

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Dan Brian, Gay Teen, Comes Out To His Mother On YouTube

As Dan Brian notes on his YouTube page, “Finally got the strength to come out to my mom…I decided to post this so that I could share my experience with you. Hopefully it will be an inspiration to those who do not have such supportive families.”

Though heartwarming, the authenticity of the video has been questioned on Twitter, to which Dan Brian has responded, “If she did know [it was being filmed] she would’ve worn better pants!”

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Is homophobia disappearing?

BY TRACY CLARK-FLORY
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Teenage boys sitting on each other’s laps, exchanging back rubs and dolling out hugs: This was the sight that researcher Mark McCormack found when he went to a British high school to research masculinity.

It was a shocking departure from the aggressive homophobia that he himself observed as “a shy, geeky, closeted teenager” in the late ’90s and early 2000s. For his new book, “The Declining Significance of Homophobia: How Teenage Boys Are Redefining Masculinity and Heterosexuality,” McCormack spent the year observing social interactions and collecting data from three high schools in the U.K. Over and over again, he saw the same surprising scene: young straight men being physically affectionate and emotionally expressive with one another. What’s more, he found that homophobic behavior is a rarity and that when someone does express anti-gay beliefs, they “are reprimanded by other students.”

His message — which builds on that of his Ph.D. advisor, Eric Anderson, author of “Inclusive Masculinity: The Changing Nature of Masculinities” — flies in the face of a spate of horrifying stories stateside of bullied gay teens committing suicide, but McCormack says the U.S. is a decade behind the U.K. on this particular front. That said, he also believes that recent attention paid to gay teen suicides doesn’t accurately reflect the reality of homophobia in America today, or how much progress has been made: “We need to look beyond the worst-case examples to see what is happening in the majority of schools,” McCormack writes. ” We do no-one any favors if we only fight prejudice that is, for some, yesterday’s battle.”

Salon spoke to McCormack by phone from his office at Brunel University in West London about the disappearance of the insult “that’s so gay” — across the pond, at least — and why the U.S. still lags behind.

How has homophobia changed over the past couple decades in the U.K.?

In the past, homophobia has been hugely significant. Being gay was criminalized up until 1967, so it’s only in the past 45 years where it’s been possible to be openly gay. In the ’80s and ’90s, when I was growing up, there was Section 28, which prevented teachers from talking about homosexuality; they didn’t feel able to combat homophobia in schools.

It used to be in the ’80s that there was “homohysteria,” which is the fear of being socially perceived as gay. What boys needed to do was to make sure they weren’t seen as gay. It was kind of this game of tag where boys would deploy homophobia competitively because the person perceived as gay would be the person who was bullied and marginalized. What better way to prove that you’re not gay than by being homophobic yourself?

But you’ve found that that’s changed dramatically.

Only in one of the three schools I studied did I hear of any form of homophobic language, and that was heard twice by two different kids. Apart from that, homophobic language wasn’t used.

Why this dramatic change over a short period of time?

The gay rights movement has been very successful, even just in terms of gay visibility. When people see famous gay people, people whom they like who turn out to be gay, that has a huge impact. People are bigoted about people they don’t know; when you get to know gay people, the homophobia drops off.

Another key area of change is the Internet. The Internet has meant that closeted kids have the ability to make friends, to be more confident, to come out earlier. Social networking sites like Facebook ask you your sexual orientation, you click whether you’re male or female, and then you click whether you’re interested in men or women. When I was at school, that question wasn’t even asked — you were straight, or if you weren’t, you were pitied.

Part of the reason it’s spiraled so quickly is that as homophobia decreased, boys could kind of hug each other a little bit or say to their best mate that they loved them, and then they could kind of cough and talk about girls. Then they realized that actually it wasn’t disgusting or repulsive, and so that undid some of their homophobia a little bit more. It’s a virtuous circle.

What about those other letters in LGBT? How are things for lesbian, bisexual and transgender people in the U.K.?

I did focus on heterosexual people, really; the book is primarily about masculinity. So, it’s hard to say, but there’s been research out there saying that gay kids are the ones who have the best experience dealing with these issues.

In the U.S., we’ve had a terrible spate of stories about gay teens committing suicides. Is the situation that different in the U.K.?

There are two different issues here. The first is that the spate of suicides has become the media narrative; maybe it was guilt from not covering it 20 years ago. While [these stories are] terrible, and they show that homophobia is still out there, they aren’t evidence of increased homophobia.

The other thing I would say is that America is a country of polarities. The U.S. is further behind but things are changing; homophobia isn’t socially acceptable in the way that it used to be.

Why do you think the U.S. is so behind on this front?

It’s an interesting question. I think what the U.S. had in a much bigger way than the U.K. was the evangelical Christian movement, which really did politicize it. They used it as a wedge issue to get money to exert influence. AIDS also had a bigger impact in the United States; I don’t mean in terms of numbers of deaths but in terms of the stigma that AIDS is a gay disease.

One of the interesting things about the U.S. is that you now have over 5,000 gay-straight alliances, and we really don’t have them in the same way in the U.K. At some schools in the U.S., you’ve got active, powerful gay-straight alliances with out and proud gay kids, and then you’ve got other schools where that doesn’t happen and there’s quite a bit of homophobia. So there’s that issue again of there being polarities.

When would you say that homophobia peaked, culturally speaking?

It was pretty much 1987, 1988. It was the time of the AIDS epidemic. Before then, gays were considered the perverts, the people we didn’t know, and AIDS brought the recognition that it was the man you worked with that died of AIDS, it was Mark Hudson, it could be anyone. That’s when homo-hysteria really kicked in.

You argue in the book that in some cases, we’re fighting “yesterday’s battles.” Can you give an example?

Like the issue of [the phrase] “that’s so gay,” actually not all kids hear that as homophobic, while most adults do. There’s this big push saying that we’ve got to combat [such language] — well, I fully agree that it’s heteronormative, it promotes straightness in some ways, but it’s not the battle we should be fighting. We’re at the stage where most progressive people, particularly in the U.K., need to push much more for talking about different families in schools, recognizing gay history, that kind of thing. The battle we should be fighting is about sex education, looking at some of these issues more openly, more broadly.

Tracy Clark-Flory
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Daniel Radcliffe posts Teen Bullying Video

Star of the Harry Potter franchise, Daniel Radcliffe, posts Teen Bullying Video.  This is a great video because he doesn’t talk about that “It Gets Better” nonsense which we know is bullshit.  Adults are bullies too.   YOu have to empower yourself and fight back.

In the new public service announcement, the 22-year-old addresses the camera and says, “I’m Daniel Radcliffe, and I believe that reaching out for help is the bravest thing a person can do. If you are struggling and need support, call the Trevor Lifeline at 1-866-488-7386. It’s free and confidential, and trained counselors are there to listen 24/7 without judgment.”

The Woman in Black star released a statement revealing that his work with the organization has taught him the importance of being a straight ally and offering his support. “When we let someone know that we accept them for who they are and that we are safe to talk to, we can help save lives,” he says. “It’s as simple as that.”

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